What “How Was Your Weekend?” Reveals About Your Team

Here’s something you might not realize:

The way your teammates answer one simple question can reveal a lot about how they think and work.

And chances are, you’re already asking it every Monday morning.

“How was your weekend?”

Listen closely to the answers over time, and patterns begin to emerge. Those patterns often reveal something deeper about your colleagues: their wiring.

In today’s workplace, getting to know colleagues isn’t always easy.

Hybrid schedules.
Remote teams.
Back-to-back meetings.

The casual conversations that used to happen naturally in hallways and break rooms don’t happen as often anymore.

Our team isn’t opposed to a few creative icebreakers—we once kicked off a virtual meeting with a surprisingly competitive round of “Guess Whose Refrigerator?”

But there’s a much simpler way to learn something meaningful about your teammates.

Just ask:

“How was your weekend?”

Then pay attention to what people choose to talk about.

What People Naturally Focus On

Different wiring styles tend to highlight different parts of their experiences.

Yellows often mention:

• The fun they had — “The concert was incredible.”
• The people they saw — “We met up with friends we haven’t seen in forever.”
• The stories they collected — “You won’t believe what happened.”

Reds often mention:

• What they accomplished — “Finally finished the yard project.”
• Productivity — “Got a lot done this weekend.”
• What’s coming next — “Next weekend will be even busier.”

Blues often mention:

• How they recharged — “I stayed home and had a quiet night in.”
• Meaningful connections — “A close friend came to visit.”
• The details of what happened — sometimes including what went wrong.

Greens often mention:

• Familiar routines — “I went hiking like I usually do.”
• Supporting others — “I went to a friend’s performance.”
• Rest and relaxation — “I mostly relaxed and watched the game.”

None of these responses are better than the others.

They simply reveal what naturally captures someone’s attention.

Why This Matters

These small conversational cues often provide insight into how someone approaches work.

Your wiring influences:

• What motivates you
• How you make decisions
• What you notice first in a situation
• How you communicate with others

Once you start recognizing wiring patterns, everyday conversations become surprisingly informative.

And when you understand someone’s wiring, it becomes much easier to communicate in ways that bring out their best.

Try This Next Monday

Ask the same question you probably ask every week:

“How was your weekend?”

Then listen closely.

You may learn more about your teammates than you expected.